How do I know if he or she is the right one for me?

When I answer the phone at Misty River Introductions, I’m not always wearing my matchmaker hat, a lot of what I do is relationship coaching.

One of the frequently asked questions is, how do I know if they are right for me?

When you go on a date you can usually tell the different between a hard no and someone that could be considered a possibility quite easily. It becomes more difficult, when it is time to figure out if the “possibility” could actually be “the one”.

I always use the analogy of working with someone. You meet a new co-worker who doesn’t make much of an impression. After getting to know them for a couple of months, you find realize that in fact they actually are quite attractive. Without a doubt, some people can really grow on you. Wouldn’t it be terrible if you dismissed someone good when they could have eventually become the best husband/wife ever?

Keeping that in mind, there are some things to keep in mind when looking for signs that your relationship has turned the corner.

• Do you look forward to seeing them?

• You talk openly about them when they are not around.

• You want their opinion on certain life decisions.

• You want them to meet your friends and family.

• They are kind.

• They are financially stable.

• They don’t borrow money from you while you are dating.

• You have interests/ activities you enjoy separately and activities/interests you are able to enjoy together.

• You respect and admire the majority of their qualities.

• You are proud of them and feel happy to introduce them to the people you love.