As a professional matchmaker, I’m always surprised when people reject someone based on chemistry after one short date. We’ve often had people be fairly unimpressed and then after a second date come back and say they think they might have found the one. Think about it. It’s similar to when you meet someone at work and barely notice them but after a month or two of knowing them you have a total crush. Dating can be similar.

Having been and matchmaker and heard every story it’s possible to hear about dating and relationship there is one I hear way too many times. The sad case of someone who can’t get over the ex. This person in every story was bad for them and often bad to them, and yet they’ve wasted years on them and continue to do so!

As a matchmaker people often corner me at parties to tell me about their relationships. Often people want to tell me about relationship that doesn’t seem to be going in a good direction.

DATING CAN BE CONFUSING

We aren’t meant to spend years as “daters” and as a result with little practice, many of us wonder if we are any good at dating. Maybe the things that are bothering us about our relationship are normal?

You’re making yourself emotionally unavailable to meet someone else. Finding someone can only occur when you’re hungry for companionship. When I say this I don’t mean desperate for love. I mean loneliness breeds opportunity. As an example, have you ever been on a trip by yourself? I’m willing to bet you met more friends on that trip than you ever made when you were part of a couple (and yes even part of a “platonic” couple).

Being successful in love can be approached similarly to being successful in other areas of your life. Whether you’re in an existing relationship or looking for a partner, your attitude will help guide the outcome of the situation. When using a matchmaking service, remember to trust the process above all. Make sure to keep the following things in mind to develop the right attitude for love success:

There are tales of terrible, horrible, no good, very bad first dates all over the internet. We’ve all heard horror stories about the unrelenting texter, the mama’s boy, breaking into tears over an ex, being seethingly rude to the waitstaff, or faking a heart attack to escape a lame date. Maybe you’ve even experienced some awful first dates yourself. When you work with a professional matchmaking service like Misty River Introductions, get used to a different kind of date. Here are four surefire signs of first date success: