Men find going out and meeting women in our current social climate very confusing and intimidating. It’s hard as a man to approach a group of women and ask one to dance. What if she says no? Now you have the long walk back to your friends with your tail between your legs!
You should socialize and have fun with your friends. People are always more desirable if they look like they are having fun. The sad wallflower rarely goes home a winner. Look at the person you are interested in. Make eye contact but don’t stare. She should catch you glancing her way but when she looks, look away. Don’t worry she’ll get it.
Here’s the hard part. You have to approach. Complimenting someone is always a good start. “I couldn’t help noticing your beautiful eyes”. Nothing is ever too much if it’s a compliment. Leave it at one though. More than one and it starts to look like you’re cataloging her parts! If you’re a woman you should try not to travel in a herd of women. It’s way too intimidating. If you have to go out with your friends spend at least some of the time circulating alone. This allows people to approach you in a way that is more comfortable for them.
Don’t start a conversation with grilling them about work or whether or not they have a boyfriend. Talk about something interesting in the news or tell them about something you’re passionate about.
Lean in, look interested. Square your body to her. Spend time, but not too much. Spending the whole evening with someone you just met may be a bit to desperate but circulate back to her later in the evening.
Don’t forget to ask them if you can call. I know it’s hard but all your work will be for naught if you don’t. The worst someone can say is no and even if they do it’s training for when the right one comes along!